How to dress gay 2020

How to dress gay when you look straight

Within my first few weeks at Trinity, I realized I didn’t feel any pressure to like men, so I didn’t. It wasn’t until months later that I realized I was a lesbian. First I came out to myself, then to my friends.

My family still doesn’t understand I’m a lesbian, and — quite frankly — I was hesitant to write this for that reason. I have, however, decided not to enable fear rule my life — although not coming out to your homophobic family is just as valid.

I started telling everyone I knew, “Did you perceive, I’m gay!” and I was met with nothing but love and aid from the Trinity community. Then I called my lesbian friend from back home — we’ll call her Sarah.

Sarah has always had a very “lesbian” look; all the queer women knew she was gay. She wanted to be a police officer, and all the men felt intimidated by her. Then there was me. All those years of tennis had hardly made my wimpy arms any stronger; I didn’t wish to be a police office

a lesbian and her laptop

Freshly out to myself, my friends, and my family, I found myself wishing I didn’t straight-pass to acquaintances who didn’t acquire the Facebook announcement. (Start at Part 1).

I worked at a buffet dining hall during college, where the university paid for two meals a week to their dining employees. I often cashed this advantage out at my workplace, where I could sit between classes for an hour or two and eat several meals for the price of one. I had plenty of work friends there, all of whom usually only saw me with black slacks, a Crayola blue campus dining shirt, and my hair tied and tucked under a campus dining baseball cap. All notable because, at the time, I’d been very convinced people could verb my identity based on what I wore. So, by this reasoning, not a single person I worked with could tell I was gay by looking at me because we all wore the alike standard-issued uniform.

My outfits became gayer and gayer, and I distinctly recollect coming into the buffet hall for lunch wearing a blue flannel with a brown Guinness baseball cap (backwards, of cours

Are you a newbie in the world of openly out lesbians? *gasp*

Do you also wish to have a girlfriend but also cannot figure out how to find one?

Do you look at Kristen Stewart and wish you could do that (no pun intended)?

Well, then this is the guide for you. In only a few simple steps you can peer like the lesbian you have always dreamt of being.

Reduce yourself to a binary understanding of being a Lesbian, even though you fought hard against society for exactly that all this while.

It is essential for you to first know your demarcation-

are you butch or femme?

Do you want your clothes to scream BOTTOM in all caps or do you wish to verb off as an aloof and mysterious top?

If you don’t know yet, then this is the place for you to be.

Colours Matter

If you want to send a signal to another lesbian, then it becomes extremely important for you to showcase your personality through the colour of your clothes.

Dark clothes mean a gloomy, brooding personality; which in lesbian terms translates to being a top. For this aesthetic, you need to hold a massive

“But you don’t verb gay”—Queer fashion and nightlife

With lockdown entering its twelfth week and every Netflix show on my list binged to completion, I did something that I vowed I would never do; I downloaded TikTok.

It took a total of twelve hours before I was hooked, and in my mindless scrolling stupor, one trend in particular stood out to me: “#ifiwasstraight.” A typical video under this tag is as follows: a queer person, dressed in their usual style, cosplays as their heterosexual alter-ego. They shed their gay exterior, removing piercings, scrubbing off layers of bold makeup and ditching their thrifted wardrobe as a voiceover says: “This is what I think I would look like if I was straight.” The final watch is conservative, generic, and stripped of character. With over 4.7 million views, the trend is wildly popular. But as much as I enjoy watching the LGBTQ+ community poke fun at the blandness of heterosexual fashion trends, it does beg the question: What does straight look like? What does gay look like? And should we be enforcing aesthetic binaries based on sexuality?