Married men looking for gay
Married men with another life to inhabit
Listen to Bill, 71, a retired lobbyist in Recent Mexico:
"I'm probably the oldest of the callers, and I've been involved, off and on with men -- discounting my Boy Scout and teenage years -- since I was in my forties. I am married."
Listen to another Bill, 55, from Boston:
"There's so many of us out there, it seems like it's very, very nice to communicate and support one another. . . . I feel enjoy a typical male with an extra bonus, perhaps. My wife does not know."
The Bills (along with Steve from New York, Joe from western Massachusetts, a nonprofit executive from the Washington area who won't give his first name and a preacher from Toronto who also won't give his first name) leave three- to five-minute voice messages, once or twice a week, in a "Voice RoundTable" created and facilitated by John N. Craig of Fairfax. Callers also listen to the others' messages, making this a assist group built around an answering machine, where no one interacts live.
Complex cases
That's not all. Since , Craig has organized dozens of three-day and one-
Married Men&#;s Group Facilitator
Carl Marshall, the first facilitator of the Married Men’s Group, talks about the group and its history.
How did the group come about?
Well, in , I left my marriage of 20 years as I realised that I was gay. I was very distressed, disoriented, and in want of support, and a friend directed me towards ‘Healthy Gay Life’, the (then) local health provider for the gay community. HGL was helpful to me as a married man. It was clear though that, as a group, some very specific support was needed. The manager who led the unit at that time recognised that I had group management skills and asked me to set up a group for men who were in relationships with women who were also attracted to men.
Why was there a need for a specific group for men in relationships with women?
Acknowledging your ‘gay’ side can be very tough. Married and cohabiting men who are also attracted to guys have very specific issues. Firstly, in admitting to themselves that they have male attractions. Secondly, the guilt of feeling that they have lied or made a mistake in getti
ByRickClemons for
Just a little over 12 years ago, I would have said, "I'm not gay, I just enjoy having sex with men!"
Excuse me, that sounds beautiful homosexual to me. Granted, if you're a male and having sex with other males, you could be bisexual, but whatever you are, you should just admit it. But I didn't do that 12 years ago. I was caught in a dysfunctional sexual limbo that made no sense. Of course, things verb changed and I'm a happy homosexual now. I've also joined the ranks of the "happily divorced" and I'm no longer messing around with other married men, disengaging from the experience and pretending to be something I'm not. However, reverse to popular noun, there are more "married men looking for married men" out there.
Shocking as it may appear to some of you, this phenomena is not brand-new . Of course, I have no chilly hard facts to prove this statement, but I don't need them. All I need is a computer, an Internet connection and an hour of free time. There are numerous sites where "married men for married men" lurk. There are also online groups where these guys e
An Introduction
My client sat in the chair looking down at the floor, glancing up briefly to make eye contact, then darting his eyes back to the carpet. He spoke quietly, as if almost scared to be heard. He clutched his hands throughout the session, displaying all the markers of an anxious noun in the throes of shame. He was a brand-new client to my practice: a married, middle-aged, suburban dad with a high-powered career. A colleague had given him my number months before. It took him a elongated time to muster the courage to call and create an appointment. Towards the end of our first session he looked up at me and said, “I reflect I’m in love…with another man. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do.”
I hold worked with hundreds of gay men in heterosexual marriages struggling with being in the closet or wanting to emerge from it. There is so much about these men that is misunderstood and very few studies or little literature to provide insight. I decided to give my thoughts and research about these men and their struggles at a conference a scant years ago. That presentation led to other oppor